Not one to shy away from an argument, I wish to put on the record that I am tired of all the talk of resilience. (Perhaps I need to be more resilient?! Sigh.)
It is not that I disagree with the importance of resilience, it is simply that the discussion about resilience is very one sided. You need to be able to take feedback better. You need to bounce back from the 60 hour weeks. You need to be able to handle disappointment. You need show me more commitment. Follow these ten steps, quit sugar and start exercising and perhaps you will attain the magical level of resilience to survive the cut-throat nature of our business...
We also need to talk about those requesting our resilience. Those that request our resilience need to accept and acknowledge their responsibility and contribution to our individual and collective resilience seriously. It is a responsibility that we share with each other - to respect and take care of each other.
When my team has been challenged regarding their resilience two things spring to mind, the first is "What have I done to preserve our collective resilience?" and the second is that they have had their own resilience eroded and yet have survived until this point without more senior intervention, surely this is evidence of their resilience.
By all means, talk about ways to be more resilient and robust, just don't forget the responsibility from those requesting the resilience in the process...